I have argued before in Commonweal that the restored order is a praiseworthy practice because it reflects a strong aspect of our tradition. Eucharist is the high point and culmination of Christian initiation. All our history and theology back up this assertion. Eucharist is the continuing sacrament of initiation. Rather than striving to structure programs that will lead—finally—to confirmation, our catechetical and ministerial efforts should lead toward Eucharistic participation. Eucharist is the icon of Christian living. Eucharist, not confirmation, is the ongoing and effective sign of belief and belonging.
Adolescent faith development, as important as it is, never had its “own” sacrament until the 1970s, when it became fashionable to delay confirmation until the children were “ready.” But how ready were they? Truth to tell, this aspect of confirmation was never a terrific success. Adolescents are often not ready to make a personal faith commitment come confirmation time, even when it is delayed to the eleventh grade, not to mention at age twelve or thirteen. Some are confident but others waffle, as adolescents are wont to do. The adolescent years are a time when young people are as likely to rebel as to cooperate with structures put in place by adults.
As a result of confirming at a later age, quite a number of Catholics baptized in infancy are never confirmed at all. Either that, or confirmation becomes what Pope Francis candidly and devastatingly called “the sacrament of farewell.” Every religious educator knows this. If the family is not committed, it’s easier to drop out than to stay the course. Or, if the kids do persevere, confirmation becomes “graduation” from religious education and frequently the end of church involvement. Obviously, this is not the intention, but these unintended outcomes are not uncommon.
The adolescent confirmation system has led to ballooning numbers of young people seeking marriage who have never been confirmed. Dioceses have had to institute confirmation programs for these young people who “fell through the cracks” of the adolescent confirmation system. If we celebrated confirmation at an earlier age, we could focus on marriage preparation when it comes time to marry.
The movement toward restored order has not been seen overall as a “fix” for the negative consequences of the practice of adolescent confirmation, however. It has a strong positive thrust in its own right, captured in the focus on family faith, and a shift to youth ministry as a value independent of sacramental preparation. The positive side is captured in this reflection on restored order from a catechist:
Another part of the equation that had been missing was a concerted effort to attend to the faith formation needs of parents. In recognizing that it is based upon the faith of parents that we receive children into the Church, we also had to admit that the sacraments were never intended to be catechetical carrots used to “trick” adults and children into learning more about their faith. Instilling in parents a hunger to know more and grow more in their own faith lives and giving them opportunities to do so, is the very best gift that can be given to the children of the parish.
We have found the Restored Order of the Sacraments to be about more than simply shifting around the order in which First Eucharist and Confirmation are received by children. It has become an invitation to reclaim our Christian calling to walk with others in the faith, to rediscover what a relationship with Christ means, and to show our children that this faith is not just something we learn about and then “graduate” from, but is the start of a relationship of learning and loving they will carry with them for the rest of their lives.