Shame and Fecundity
Most college graduates in their twenties will gladly tell you more than you ever wanted to know about their sex lives. They may even blog about them. Oddly though, there’s still a tremendous amount of shame about getting pregnant and having children, even in one’s mid to late twenties.
I have lots of college educated friends who would be mortified to find out that they or someone they knew were unexpectedly expecting.
You hear stories all the time, whether the mother is married or engaged or has a good partner is not the issue, it seems to her “friends” that she is throwing her life away.
Having a child before owning a home seems to be the last refuge of shame and socially acceptable ridicule among a certain class. Even with all the liberation that’s happened in the last several decades women are still made to feel ashamed and afraid of the one thing that sets them most apart from men, their potential to bear children.
When will our society be more hospitable to women and children?